A Cold With Blood In Phlegm

"Sex ...? And why not ...? (III)

is the time to respond to complaints of sex ...
Pardon the expression, but now let's analyze some rgumentos to give you to try to take to bed.

Very repeated reasons for saying 'If

Here are the most common reasons that appear to justify sex during courtship. Are practically the same in the last three hundred and fifty thousand years ... There is nothing new under the sun ...

1. "If we love, why is going to be wrong?"
There are different kinds of love, and each has different manifestations. You want your parents, siblings, cousins, friends ... and told them your love without resorting to sex. Sexual union requires prior binding of lives, otherwise it is a lie. A total union demands exclusivity and no limit time. This only occurs in marriage. At this time, the way to express mutual affection is through sex. Also, do not confuse love with passion, desire and reality, intention with action. The affection that you feel will become definitely love delivered to the wedding night. Today there is only meant to give you your life. Who guarantees that you will marry him / her? Maybe he says he loves you ... how many girls have told the same thing ... just to get to bed?

2. "I do not want to lose ..."
This is one of the most common reasons why girls give in to pressure groom. "If you say no, look for another to accept its conditions. If you want to keep for me, I have to please him sleeping with him." Do not be afraid, if you require sex as a condition to continue, it is better not to continue, because it shows what kind of person he is and what you are looking for.

3. "We have to prove our love, so be sure to be sexually compatible"
can not experiment with human beings and less if they are loved ... Love should not be tested with something as intimate as sex. Being able to have sex is not a demonstration of love, but solely as a sexual being. Love is tested in other areas ... Tests smaller margin of error does not occur in the field of things that produce pleasure, but it costs sacrifice. Prove your love for each require proof that you are able to sacrifice for the beloved. And one of the most important is knowing deny one's whims for the sake of another. In addition, the most experienced in this field are prostitutes, and not think they are experts in love. Not appear that his "experience" enhances the love ..

4. "I do not like ... but my boyfriend does not understand my reasons ..." Give
understand only because it does not seem to make much sense. May not understand the theoretical reasons you can give ... but do not need to understand them.

5. "Everybody does."
is not true. Also, what do we mean by everybody? You can answer "all prostitutes do." OK, you're right. "Everything" play boy "is doing with every girl who is in his way." OK, you're right again. But can someone who wants to be a good parent, be counted among such "worldwide"? Moreover, the number of people who behave in a certain way does not value that kind of behavior. The question is whether they do is right or wrong. Doing something you know is wrong, only peer pressure or the environment, is to give up your freedom.

6. "I like it. If he / she agrees, why not? "
Actually what I like is the pleasure that sex gives you, which is very different from the happiness of love. For now, both can only give pleasure and nothing more, and this will affect your ability to love genuinely. Do not kid yourself.

7. "I have to show that I love ..."
Best show you he loves you ... holding back. By your side ... may be better to give him a box of chocolates.

8. "We're getting married."
When you were 5 years you could have said the same thing ... And no one will guarantee it. Do you know how it was that they would marry segurísimos ... never been married ...? If we in tragic ... one can die in an accident before the wedding ... In fact, even the time of marriage both are free to terminate the relationship. You have not yet committed for life. Although you want to marry with him / her, have joined their lives. What makes the difference is the marriage is completely different after having sex before getting married. Three years or a week before, it is equally possible. This is not an issue of the number of days, months, years ... is a matter of reality do not belong.

9. "My boyfriend did with previous girlfriends had ..."
bad for them ... I do not think now they feel very glad they did ... repeat the same mistakes just because someone made in the past and wants to commit to one ... do not think is very wise ...

10. "I have no patience to wait until we get married ..."
Your desperation for sex may have to worry ... is convenient to visit a good psychologist to treat the addiction ...

11. "I can not stop ..."
This is not true. Perhaps your will is still weak, but with effort you can strengthen it. Be optimistic and superate to yourself. Also, if you avoid the times and the other person helps you, you will be able to live according to what they consider the best option. No one can say that it is able to live according to their dignity. If a person thinks they can not live a pure love ... what kind of love can live?

12. "If we are careful, nothing will happen, what may be the problem? "
Well you know that sex is not a game. The possibility of pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases are not the only problem. You can try to avoid them, but how can you protect your ability to love? Besides, you know how many people who thought like you got pregnant or are "enjoying" of AIDS?

13. "We are mature and responsible, no one can come and say we should do."
Look, sex does not depend on age. What is wrong at fifteen, is also bad cuendo you have thirty. The meaning of sexuality is not dependent on age. Other Thus, at seventy, infidelity would be something worthwhile ...!

14. "We have no religious prejudices."
This is not about religion. So far we have talked about God. It is true that the commandments of God reinforce the importance of abstinence before marriage, but this applies to everyone. Atheism does not change things and what is at stake is your future happiness ... I do not risk it so easily. . Anyway, do not forget that all religions-Judaism, Christianity, Islam ... - valued virginity and reserve sex for marriage. Different

ways to say no

There is no limit for imagination and creativity of a person who is proposed something serious. And when someone wants sex, you never know on what grounds is coming ...

Saying "no" frequently requires more than a one-word answer. It is important to be psychologically prepared for the different lines that one can use to pressure you for sex. If "NO" is strong, the pressure will stop.

• "Do not you love me?" "I love you enough to say no"
• "If you really love me ..." "If I really wanted, never would have asked me that. If you really cared someone does not push to do something that will not do "
• " But if we all do "" Everybody, except me. "
• "Come on, everybody's doing it all" "Then do not be so hard to find someone else to do"
• "But I always did with my previous girlfriends" "Not this. By the way, I am now ex-girlfriend "
• " But I always did with my previous girlfriends "should keep very fond memories ... I would not participate in them"
• "Do not you attractive? "" I find you very attractive. I like a lot. I do not want to sink our good relationship ... that's what I'd put it in the ways of sex "
• " Do not tell me you're still a virgin. "You're frigid?" "No, I'm smart"
• "Do not love me?" "Do not respect me"
• "If you get pregnant, I marry you" "Why wait? Let's get married now! "
• " I'll stop when you tell me "" What about now? "
• " I love you "" Great. Demostralo respecting my values \u200b\u200b"
• " But, what happens? Am I dating a nun? "" The nuns are the only people faithful? "" No, a smart girl, that is sufficiently high to self-esteem compared with other "
• " What are you waiting for? " "Our honeymoon!"
• "You're a repressed?" "No, I am free from the pressure to have sex before marriage"
• "Sex is not so bad" "It's important for me to my husband and God. I am committed to keeping sex for marriage "
• " Sex is going to make our relationship more intimate "" No, it will become the center and will drown everything else "
• " Sex is going to bring "" No, it will bring our bodies. And it will separate the rest "
• " It's our anniversary. It is a special day "" It will be even more special if we wait for our wedding night "
• " I want to give something to remember me "" Something like a son or a disease? "
• " Do not be so rigid, "" Do not be so selfish "
• " De agreement, as you want. Let's just get us some clothes and be together. We need do nothing more "" Do I look stupid? "