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Fashions change, come and go. Forms of dress, go out, dance, talk, etc.. Most have no future impact on the lives of people. Some do a lot.
seems that fashion is to impose as the girls go to attack and provoke the boys sexually. It's what makes the newspaper Clarin recently wrote on the top of his young charge: "The girls go to the front. This trend is changing sexual habits juveniles. Now, they stomp and attack, and they, disoriented, fold. "He spoke of a" new generation of powerful girls. "The tone of the note was almost positive. Even a girl who seems not traded the first in a bowling alley is nothing.
This article analyzes the trades to the fund. It is not just to read it, is rather to think, and better, to chat with friends.

What is traded?

• is a type of relationship between boys and girls absolutely casual, based on physical contact and sensual. The trades happen between people no emotional bond that one: they are not dating, not even friends. The trans is a relationship that does not generate any future relationship. It's just a relationship that lasts a while one night. Is a result of being emptied of content dating ... which makes no worthwhile to get a boyfriend. Recently a girl told me she had cut her boyfriend because he lived thinking of other guys ... The friendship is not traded, it's almost supposed to not be.
• The waiver trades appears when the ideal of a deep love for simple consumer engage in sexual pleasure. Quinceañera is not seeking to establish a stable friendship, seeking only sensual experience of kissing and unbridled lust. Definition excludes loyalty, as both know that before there were many / as other, girls and in a little while more to come tomorrow ... Who are traded might not even say hello, you may never know who really was the other home, or neither agree to its name as perhaps never knew. It is "fun", they hang tight body enjoying the other, and then, if you've seen I do not remember. Think that the kiss no sequelae, which has only part of the load "electricity" own erotic acts, a good dose of adventure and no commitment.
• At this point we may ask, then what is compromise? According to the dictionary: "To compromise, give in, to reach a compromise or agreement." That is, some kind of agreement or trade. Our case, it is a sensual type transaction. You gave your body to another person so that it will remove the sexual pleasure you can within certain limits. A change that entitles you to enjoy each other's body. That is an agreement to use and be used. Then, first an erotic pleasure is traded.
• traded But also other things that are not so obvious ...: the pleasure of exchanging a false self-esteem, as they both pretend they are measured at each other ... and this would make them feel valued ... It changes a now, the enjoyment of the moment-by a long-term dignity: there are sequels!, is not a weekend, the waiver of a serious love. Affects the approach to marriage, happiness in marriage, sexual relations in marriage, marital fidelity ...

Is sex without sex?

• traded Is something innocent? That kissing wildly, tightening and handling is certainly an activity of a sexual nature. Do not think that failure to reach the full sexual act, you have not had sex. Just simply ask what is it that you feel in that situation, and the answer is that you feel sexuality bubbling bubbling like a boiling pot. Arouse sexual passion without intent to have sex just to enjoy sensual sensations sexuality is empty. Furthermore, it is used selfishly another person (even voluntarily leave or express the same desire outrageous: the fact of being used does not detract from selfishness; the two only think of themselves!). Sexual activity is progressive, the turn is just the beginning. When behind the wheel of the car, you put up the engine, embriagiando you put first, start accelerating ... has begun to drive although the car still has not moved an inch. Similarly, starting having sex is a sexual activity but does not end with the "process."
  The problem with the trades is that sexuality empty of content. He claims not to be sexual activity, but only one way to have fun. This delusion "to think that itself is not having sex" is because it is a cheap and banal version of sex. But you do not have the intelligence of Einstein to realize that is the beginning of sexual activity (any sexual act begins there.) Is sex without commitment, without love ... and unfinished "process." By pretending to be sex without sex, cheapens sex. In a sense, quite similar to prostitution: sex with an anonymous, no face or name. It is a sort of prostitution limited and reciprocal. It's rather because mutual sexual excitement is purely for trade: the girl offers her body in exchange for affection, companionship, pleasure, etc.. Sex is disposable, disposable ... and really do it, and which after use is "strip" to another person. It also seems rather to masturbation: degrading the body with sexual self-stimulation, sex without love again (here we use the body of another person, but only his body, no matter who is ...). If sex is reduced to only pleasure, it can never enjoy in all its depth, because sex is something else. Pleasure is only one component and not the most valuable, and even gains value intensity of joy from the rest.

So is sex without love or affection?

• Yes, and this produces an emotional emptiness. Opens to privacy, it gives one of the largest samples of intimacy and affection to those who do not know. It's like a water pump that works in a vacuum: it is based. Normally seeks to fill in affective deficit. At the time of trades experience feels like to be loved by another, but in reality it is used (and one uses the other). So, whenever the girl feels used: this for the simple reason that it is. She may try to convince you it is okay, but the day Next, when you are alone with itself, finds that the trades will not only filled the emotional vacuum that was intended to fill but it deepened. You feel a waste. The trades seriously affects affective and emotional stability of a person.

Is very close intimacy between two strangers?

• With trades pretend an intimacy that does not exist. The bodies body intimacy are nameless, faceless, with no history and no future. As a body without a soul is a corpse, one could say that the two bodies Intiman trades alive. It enjoys the body of another for a while. Only matter how well you pass it this time, then it will not matter if the other / a exists or not. The transformation involves the use of the body of a person you do not care / no care (while your body is used by him / her). A person will not be there when you need it. This does great damage and to share intimacy without emotional charge produces a break in the person: it makes a split between sexuality and love ... Break it will be very difficult to repair ... that makes the person incapable of love of truth and that sexuality is no longer a vehicle for expressing love to be an insatiable hunger for pleasure. Therefore, destroys the ability to love.

So is it a lie?

• The trades work in the realm of falsehood and hypocrisy. Itself is a big lie. It pretends to love to get pleasure, joy pretends to hide the emptiness, it lies in the words of affection and appreciation (if he is cute, you want it ...) are showing signs of intimacy lies with who has not been intimated , it lies even in the data (where you live, who you are, what you do, school, social status ...). Want to be sex without sex, expression of love without affection, closeness without intimacy, a union that no one would like to join ... Inside that all these lies were true, one can imagine the deepest desires of the "trensera": "Pretend you love me," tell me nice things as if you thought, "I pretended that you care," "Tell me you love me though I know it's a lie "...

Is it true that no consequences?

• advance was unfaithful and compromise future loyalty. When I ask a girl, would you like your mother find braided (for "compromise" is to "braid") with the gardener, or the tennis teacher, or neighbor? Always the answer is "no", followed by a "very different, because she is married. "OK. But it is not so different, the difference is only a matter of time because you're going to be ... And the faithful begins earlier. You can tell your husband, I've been true since before I met I have saved for you. Many have wanted to kiss me, others have dreamed of hands ... but I've always been yours. Furthermore, it appears that he has failed to be faithful before ... it will be later ... Anyway, the weakness is Hence, it is a fact ... the strength to overcome in the future will have to get ...
• commits future affective. As is evident from the emotions produced by sexual passion is strong and intense. Those emotions "Printed" in memory (either physical, sensible, "photo" imaginative ...) images are not easy to erase. In the future you'll have what the English call "flash back", ie going to the past and with flashes of past experiences. It will be very romantic to be kissing your husband, one whom you've given your life, and be going through your head at that moment so intimate, the flashes of what they felt kissing traded many different partners, and their faces, and laughter. No, you're not alone ... many will follow you emotionally. Create
• sexual addiction. Disordered sexual activity, ie outside the natural channel for which it was created- creates dependency, that is some loss of freedom. This is because that sex fulfills the law of decreasing repetitions which applies to purely physical pleasures: raising the dose to achieve the same effect ... The most common is the pleasure, less happy and generates a greater anxiety for the pleasure. Thus, while increasing anxiety about the act, the pleasure it produces decreases. Nor can waive the act, or you can enjoy it.
  Sexual addiction is one of the famous psychiatrists who study units: alcohol, drugs, gambling, sex. They are addictive and progressive activities. That is why more and more lost control of the situation and the ability to refuse to settle ... reaches almost unable to be free ... One has come to become a sex addicts. In this case you find yourself transacting transadicto ... almost without realizing it ...
• Also, do not forget that sexuality is an activity that by its very nature tends to complete the sexual act. Hence the trades always leads to sex. Sooner or later, and rather soon, as soon leave the run-up to meet ... why cut when it comes to the "best"?
  Self-deception is very common, is thought to have controlled the situation perfectly ... when in fact long since lost control. And then, always the same ... the issue ends with the girl crying ... "I never thought we would get this far." But in reality, they got to where it was clear they were going to get, where he directed the actions started. Is that when it comes into play in sexual arousal rather than think it is a "go with limits" is false! At the bottom they know that light a wick, burning and know how to end the only option is the "expert" who is the other ... And if you can stop them .... and if the boy, especially, do not fool with words, words, words ....
• The trades is one of the most effective in causing a rapid decline self-esteem. Note that the purity is often a problem in people with other problems. Not often found in successful people. It is rare that good learners have them. The same people with high self-esteem. You will not find people with high self-esteem that are promiscuous. The classic profile of the person with issues of chastity is, frustrated in his work lacks maturity, low levels of happiness, emotional deficits and low self-esteem. But it's a vicious circle: low self-esteem, promiscuity, low self inclined to cling desperately to give first ball, which allows the exploitation of the "victim" after compromise feels more garbage than ever before. But DO NOT FORGET YOU CAN LEAVE THIS CIRCLE OF SLAVERY!
• ago The women traded selfish, insecure, emotionally and sexually unbalanced. Falsely aggressive ... women more emotionally needy experiments ... always emotionally unsatisfactory, unsatisfactory, and outside the context of procreation and even good taste. They know that it is normal that they want to braid, and let them come ... everything appears to be conquest of women is absolutely false, is part of a ritual that has its times, lies, ....
• Promiscuity is defined as sexual intimacy had with any person, the frequent change of partner of adventures. The trades you into the exclusive club of those who are promiscuous. Welcome! Means that you no longer have privacy. Have you lost ... because it has been given to everyone ... it has been scattered by different clubs. You have been given "little bits" of yourself to different guys ... So shame is lost (by definition is the defense of one's privacy): no privacy to protect.
• fame is achieved easy girl. The kids know the difference between easy women-those of little value, which you do what you want without a problem, because it leaves them all-and difficult. And you know what to look depending on which is what they want at every moment to enjoy a body or made in boyfriend. It's a matter of doing a small survey to see how much men value girls "transeros" if the value or despise.
• What will the boy to his friends? An enlarged and expanded version of what happened. Better not write down the terms on which will refer to the girl with his friends ... For quite a few guys out with a girl is a challenge: to see how far I can go with this ...
• Also, do not forget that all these guys you've traded not die, do not go to live in Algeria ... in the future you will still encounter along the street, in a restaurant ... sometimes you have to submit to your husband and children ... What wonderful memories to share together!

Any other risks?

• The trades often associated with alcohol abuse. Why? The excuse is that with a bit of alcohol makes it more fun, but the reality is that you need to lose the natural shame, be less self-possessed, and so on., To enter into the dynamics of trades. Investigate the life of "porn stars" ... no wonder they had to get drunk or high to be able to act ... just the beginning ... since then usually because have been corrupted. It is not uncommon for children to encourage girls to take ... just to let them do cost less, lose inhibitions ...
  even happens that you do not know what happened exactly ... and the next day having to ask the other to where it is ... because you do not know.
• expose me to be raped. This is not an exaggeration. The message I give the boy is total sexual availability: I am at your mercy. No wonder where she wants to stop ... he does not want ... and it all becomes just a matter of strength. Or if you drink more ... or even observer force ... will be not very aware of what happens to you ... and not have ability to do anything not to go. If you go into the dynamics of sexuality, where peers may not depend on you ...
• The trades can be considered even a paid position. Have you seen that many big nightclubs with posters promoting "free women"? Is it an act of male chivalry and expectant, assume or pretend that the girls "pay" their way into "work"?

Is it not promote sexism?

• The trades is to teach men that women can use that they like to be used, snogging, hands .... by anyone. Do not forget Some men think that women really want to be sexually harassed, which have only a formal opposition ... but deep down even a violation enjoy as much as they ...

Paul Writes
(04/09/1901)